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I have a problem saying no sometimes. I also have boundary issues... so i am told ;) Ok its nothing new to me. Its a life long plague. I often have a strong sense of responsibility. I will either feel like its an obligation to do the things I do. If I don't do them then someone else will suffer. If I don't do what I am asked then someone will think badly of me. If I don't step up, no one else will and then the world will fall apart. At least the world I am living in. These are all lies I have believed over and over again. I always want to be the best I can be, especially in the eyes of everyone around me.
I know this is pretty normal but its the reason I get so burnt out, frustrated and hurt. I feel as if the people asking should know better and if they don't then they must really need that thing from me. The stronger the personality, the harder it is to say no. Its also harder to justify the no. Justifying the No is always where i get stuck. I can rationalize the "ask" until they win and I am doing one more thing. I can always see the other side... its a curse. I can see the other side so clearly, I forget that I might be entitled to say No.
I know this is pretty normal but its the reason I get so burnt out, frustrated and hurt. I feel as if the people asking should know better and if they don't then they must really need that thing from me. The stronger the personality, the harder it is to say no. Its also harder to justify the no. Justifying the No is always where i get stuck. I can rationalize the "ask" until they win and I am doing one more thing. I can always see the other side... its a curse. I can see the other side so clearly, I forget that I might be entitled to say No.
